A relationship is like a sapling. For it to grow, you must carefully nurture it. Sometimes, even when two people are wholly committed to each other, problems happen because of the many issues that can ail a relationship. Commitment is important, but it is not the only thing important in a relationship. Read on to know about the most common relationship problems and how can they be fixed.
Given the daily hassles of life, a majority of people find themselves feeling stressed on a daily basis. It’s worst when stress reaches your bedroom. According to a recent survey, people dealing with high levels of stress are more likely to feel uncomfortable and dissatisfied in a relationship. How to get stress out of your life and your bedroom? Spend some time doing things that make you happy — listening to music, playing a game of table tennis, etc. You must also either hit the gym or do Yoga regularly to keep yourself calm and relaxed.
2. Low sex drive
Sex is an integral part of every relationship. A similar mental level of thinking will keep two people mentally attached to each other, but physical compatibility ensures physical attraction which is of utmost value when it comes to relationships. If studies are to be believed, a large number of women feel unsatisfied with their sex life. However, they do not seek help — this is one of the big mistakes you are making.
Low sex drive can have much to do with your physical health. If you are experiencing a low sex drive, you must see a doctor immediately and seek help.
3. Different Beliefs
While some people feel dissatisfaction with their sex life, some other find the beliefs of their partner troublesome. Some couples experience a low in their relationship when their beliefs begin to clash with that of their partner. It is important to understand that a relation is made by two different people. While you may agree on most of the things, it is for certain that there will be certain things that you will disagree on.
The key to a happy relationship is to let your partner choose to believe what they like to believe. Forcing your thoughts will never make love grow in your relationship. This is also the case when it comes to family issues. Does your wife have a problem with your mother? Or does your husband not get along with your father? In an ideal situation, you would want your spouse and family members to get along just well, but it doesn’t always happen that way. It is extremely important to learn that you can’t compel someone to love or accept a person — attachment and bonding happens naturally. Sometimes, it is best to let go and let things run their natural course.
A couple must constantly explore new things to keep themselves from getting bored. Once people settle comfortably into the cocoon of their homes, they become lazy and stop spending quality time with each other. As a couple, you must do new things to keep each other hooked. You should both do what your partner loves. As a couple, you must also do a road trip every now and then — this is the best time you will be able to give to each other. To keep the romance alive, surprise your partner. If you are a girl, play video games with him. If you are a guy, surprise your girlfriend by taking her for a chick flick.
Relationships also come with their gamut of emotional issues. Jealousy is a part of every relationship. However, it becomes lethal when it gets out of hand. Jealousy corrodes a relationship from within. It does not only affect your mental and physical health, it also destroys your partner’s trust in you. Jealousy arises from and leads to insecurity.
There is no place for insecurity in any good relationship and thus, you should get rid of it immediately. The best way to do this is to analyze your situation. If you think jealousy is a part of your personality, you should stop yourself from getting jealous. Reassure yourself every time you feel jealousy brewing in your heart. If you think your insecurities are arising because your partner is not giving you enough attention or is at fault, you must communicative with your partner.
6. Lack of communication
Lack of communication can destroy relationships. It is when two people stop talking to each other, do gaps come up. The space starts to get filled with silence which is nothing but excruciatingly painful. Likewise, if you suffer from lack of support from your partner, you must have a frank conversation with your them and let them know that as their spouse, you do not appreciate their behavior. If they love you, they will change their ways.
If you are a couple who has had children recently, your whole life is going to turn upside down. You will see new responsibilities that are capable of driving you away from each other. Couples with children find it really hard to devote time to each other. With kids demanding so of much time and energy each day, people forget their spouses. If you are doing the same, you are committing a big mistake.
In between your mother and father duties, you should also find time for each other. You must, at any cost, find time for at least one dinner date every week. Hire a nanny if need be, but do not leave your partner for your children because your partner needs you as much as your children.
8. Social media
Finding time isn’t always easy, but it is important. Addictions like social media can take away the time that you should be devoting to each other. The only way to find some quality time is to get rid of everything that comes in the way of you and your partner.
Expectations hurt the most. In relationships, it is important to give without expecting anything back in return. However, the selfishness that exists within us does not agree to this idea. Since you cannot control how much your spouse gives you back, it is important to learn to let go. It is also important to not give yourself completely to one person and then feel disappointed.
10. Physical harass & Cheating
Adjustment and compromise are the keys to a happy relationship. At the same time, there are certain things for which there is no scope in a happy relationship — cheating is one of them and violence is the other. If your partner is cheating on you, walk out on them. Likewise, if they are someone who physical harass you, you must leave them and move on. As a human being, you don’t deserve to be humiliated in such a way.
Relationships can be tricky. However, if you take care of the small things that really matter, you won’t have much to worry about. After all, small gestures make a big difference.